Monday, April 02, 2007

STRONG CUP OF COFFEE

This is how I was described the other night by a friend. What the hell does that mean anyway?


There is this beautiful woman that I have become friends with. We actually met each other professionally years ago. She is a fabulous floral designer. Tall, leggy, redhead (Steve?) and very funky in style and personality. True confession: I have never slept with another woman, But, if I were she would be the one. She's freakin' gorgeous.

We began a conversation about all of her girlfriends and I mentioned that I really did not have too many girlfriends. It seems that most of my friends are male- either gay or straight. I actually don't mind this. I seem to have more in common with most of these male friends than my female companions.

She then proceeded to tell me that I was "one strong cup of coffee." That I seemed strong and probably intimidating to some women. She then went on to tell me how she could "handle" that and it did not put her off.

I am not quite sure how to take this. I think I am a strong person for the most part. But, I think I am also a very compassionate, loving, friendly person. I am a great listener and try not to be too opinionated when offering advice.

I have been told often that I have a very open aura about me which makes it easy for people to be drawn to me. I do agree with this.

Come to think of it the last person to tell me so was a man. Go figure.



13 comments:

Mother of Invention said...

I've always found that gay men make fabulous friends for women..you can get really close without the awkward sexual tension.

GEWELS said...

MOI- absolutely, and they know how to dress me!

steve said...

Knows how to dress you? I've never been accused of that!
i bet you are a lot like me...I've been described as disarming and intimidating at the same time...i think its because you can see the wheels spinning while you talk to me...and i'll tell you what I think as nicely as I can...
And yes Foral Designers are my pecialty!

Akelamalu said...

I'd take it as a compliment.

GEWELS said...

Steve- I meant the RED-HEAD part!!!
Akelamalu- Thanks, I wanted to take it a s a compliment. And, I think the fact that she ALWAYS kisses me on the lips shows that she, too, meant it as a compliment.

red-dirt-girl said...

Gewels, girlfriend!

first the visual dna: LOL because I came THIS CLOSE to selecting the same My Landscape and My Treat as yours..then for sure we would have been twins........Ha.

I love your post. I love a good strong cup of coffee in the morning...strong is the only way to drink it! Hey, I'm a tall redhead..well not as skinny as I used to be and forget the gorgeous part, but I find you warm, open, compassionate......though I would probably hug you and kiss you on the cheek - Ha. You would make an excellent girlfriend for me and any man on this planet.....

Me? Well I'm described as self-possessed; intense; quirky; pensive; a loner (and this usually translates to unfriendly and / or snob by other women..) Not too many gay men live in my perfect Stepford town- and I believe these are considered my 'positive' traits!

You are a fresh breeze, a waterfall, one who has sense enough to know a good shoe when she sees it....and a fine fellow blogger...

Me, for one? Glad we linked up....I always enjoy and am inspired by your witty comments and thoughtful postings......

hugs,
rdkitty

steve said...

"The more time we spend thinking about Redheads and Floral Designers the less time we spend thinking about undressing other women"

GEWELS said...

Red Dirt Girl- What I didn't write in my post was that this same discussion led to my mentioning the awesome women ( and occasional very cool men- Steve and Dave, to name two) that I have met through blogging. I feel I am better friends with you guys than anybody here in my neck of the woods. Heck, I wouldn't even give them my blog address to check in on me.HA! This only intrigued them more.
I do wish I had close, female friends like you. But for now, I'll settle for Travis (hey Steve, he's a fellow Texan) and he has rummaged around in my underwear drawer, if only to pick the perfect bra to go with the outfit he chose for me to wear. He's good that way!

Yes Steve- just spend YOUR time thinking about undressing only red-heads and floral designers.

Linds said...

Gewels... my dear friend... you ARE an incredibly compassionate and loving individual. But you're strong, as well - and that's what makes you so beautiful. Reading of your strength gives me not only strength of my own, but also the ability to be more open and compassionate. Yes, I suppose some would say these two characteristics of yours are polar opposites... I, however, liken them to yin and yang. =)

Take it as a compliment.

And, to echo what everyone else has already said: you're wonderful. And I love the fact that I have you as a friend - even if it is only through this cyber world of blogging.

On another note, I haven't been around much lately - but I did catch up on my "Imagined Life" reading. It sounds like you're doing awesome and I'm so happy! Keep flyin' around in that GORGEOUS car of yours, and enjoy the beautiful landscape that is your backyard. As I've told you before... I'm a bit jealous.

Many hugs to you. Stay strong. Nobody enjoys a weak cup of coffee, you know.

~ Linds

GEWELS said...

Linds- So great to hear from you. Yes, bloom time, my friend. Missed you

red-dirt-girl said...

Gewels??? oh gem girl??? knock knock??

yoouuu whoooo??

just wondering where you are....I posted a 'pair' of shoes for you today.....these are shameless.....

Happy Easter girlfriend....

rdkitty

Jose said...

When i used to work out at the gym I met this girl that wan't even that pretty (but she was not ugly either). Anyway, everytime she got there all the other girls used to stare at her. She demanded that much attention. I guess she was a strong cup of coffee too. I kindda like that term.

I'll take everyones word that you are beautiful and strong, I don't know you... yet!

I like your blog and been here before, I will come back and visit soon.

Mother of Invention said...

I can see how you might be compared to a strong cup of coffee...pleasant, aromatic, people are drawn to you...you have substance.
Me? I'd be compared to maybe a mild decaff!!! HA!